When you are on a date, what do you expect out of it?
Some say that the first impression is the last impression. But maybe that’s not true for every person. However, a good first date can set things on the right track!
But wait a minute, how will you be able to identify if the date was good?
Well, we know that the final outcome is another wonderful date but can you guess that vibe beforehand?
This is exactly what this post is all about.
Here, I will be telling you a few signs that will indicate if the date went just like you wanted to.
So, let’s get started.
Nothing Happens on Its Own
A date cannot go as planned on its own, you need to do something for that, or shall I say, you cannot make any bloopers. Here are some aspects that you need to keep in mind before going on to your date.
- Don’t dress over the top! Maybe you have something in your wardrobe that can put the Queen or King of England to shame, but you don’t have to bring that out on your first date. Even Prince Harry wouldn’t do that despite having blue blood in his veins. Try to be simple yet elegant; you don’t know what the other person will be like, so it is safe to be within moderate limits. Apart from that, too grand a dress will cause a lot of problems handling it.
- You don’t have to blabber about everything on the first date. Maybe you have had a tough life, but you don’t have to tell everything about it in excruciating detail. Frankly, it may seem that you are here to seek some sympathy from your date. Try to talk about things where you both can participate as there will be plenty of occasions where you can talk about personal things.
- Don’t try to be too choosy with the food or drinks. I mean, you are not alone here, and this is not the only restaurant on the planet. Staring at the menu card for hours before placing your order will even piss off the waiter, let alone your date. Remember, food is only part of the date, not much more important than the date itself. Just order something you can munch and swallow without making funny faces. The best option can be to order the same thing as your date. It can immediately bring out a smile on her face.
- Try to match her vibe. Maybe you are an expert on Jazz and can talk for hours about how Miles Davis changed jazz forever. But maybe she is not that much of an expert. In such a scenario, speaking at length can create a negative impression. I mean, who would want to be labeled as a know-it-all show off on the first date?
- Read between the lines. I don’t mean to offend anyone, but most women don’t say what they mean and don’t mean what they say. In such a scenario, you need to be very alert and have the instinct to read between the lines.
- Try to be yourself. This will help you deduce the mentality of your partner as well. Apart from that, most people don’t like men/women who pretend to be someone they are not.
So, now let’s talk about the signs that can suggest a job well done!
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The Signs of a Successful First Date
A good date will have multiple aspects, but most people are not always aware of them. Similarly, they fail to see what went wrong and why their date never called or showed interest in them again.
Identifying at least the plus sides can also give you some kind of idea to understand the negative aspects of a first date.
Lose Track of Time
What’s the standard length of a good date? Well, there isn’t any standard time for a good date! If your date is going well, you would definitely lose track of time and only get up to go home when the restaurant owner asks you. Sometimes maybe you leave early from the restaurant, but you don’t actually go home. Maybe you go for a walk and have some street food like a hot dog and talk endlessly.
Maybe you know your house is just around the corner, but still, you are making rounds of your block because the streets are empty, and you realize how beautiful the night is. If you have experienced something similar on your first date, then you are a lucky man.
You Laugh Together
They say if you can make a woman laugh, then you have really made an impression. By no means, one has to become a stand-up comedian on their first date. But you can always come up with small sweet nothings that can evoke laughter between you two. It is always very healthy to have something funny to talk about because it will lighten up the mood and make happy memories.
We only wish to relive happy memories, isn’t it? Hence, when you have some happy memories on your first date, then most of the time, one would feel like reliving them again, and this idea will lead to the second date.
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Balance Between Listening and Talking
An ideal date will always have a balance between both the participants. Often it happens that a man speaks so much that he leaves no choice for his date but to listen only throughout the time. This usually happens when you stretch a topic too much just because you know a lot about it. Frankly, this can absolutely backfire on you. If your date doesn’t get the chance to speak and resort to listening to you only, chances will be very high that she will never call you again. After all, it was a date and not a university lecture.
Try not to speak too much all by yourself; instead, allowing your date to state his/her opinion will also project your mental flexibility.
Eye Contact is Very Important
Looking here and there can never be a good sign on your first date. But if your date is making eye contact with you, then it indicates he/she is drawn to you and is finding you very attractive.
Now, if your date is often looking at your body more than your face, then it can have other meanings as well, but ideally, you can definitely trust a date if he/she is directly looking at your eyes. Bear in mind that it is not just about one glance at your eyes but a confident look that lingers and comes back over and over again.
Differences Made It Interesting
Most people would tell you that having some great differences with your date is never a good sign, and it will lead to never seeing each other again. But that can only happen if your date already had the predisposition of leaving you in the first place. However, with the perfect date, these differences can make the date even more interesting.
Instead of criticizing each other due to the difference, if your date finds them exciting and asks more about your opinion on different things, it is definitely a great sign. When someone can accept ourselves the way we are, nothing can be better than that!
You Were Completely Yourself
Continuing the sense from the last sign, the ideal date will compel you to become someone else. You will always be free to share your opinion on a different topic even if they don’t really match with your date.
On the other hand, if your date never imposes his/her choice on you, then it is also kind of the same thing. Allowing you your own space and choices is always very important in any kind of relationship. Thus, if you see one such indication on your first date, then it is surely a great sign for the future.
Plenty of Physical Touches
By physical touch, we don’t really mean touching each other sexually or arousing each other while no one is watching. No, not at all; rather than happening on the very first date can be pretty bizarre. However, even while laughing together, some subtle touches can mean a lot.
The idea here is to create a kind of bond between each other. The band doesn’t need to be physical necessarily. However, this subtle physical contact can create a sense of comfort between you two. This comfort can later lead to trust on future dates. Everyone knows that no relationship can flourish without a sense of trust. Physicality is very important in a relationship. Brushing shoulders while walking can indicate a lot about the time you had spent that evening.
Phones Were Rarely Touched
Forget about a date; even when you are just sitting with someone, how can you tell that the person is not at all interested in listening to you? It’s simple; he/she will fidget with their mobile phone while pretending to be listening to you. The same can be said about your date as well.
If both of you felt like quickly checking your Instagram or Facebook while the date was going on, then clearly, the data is not exciting enough. But if your phones were rarely touched or checked for new messages, then clearly, you two were lost in talking to each other. The outside world couldn’t sway you off the date. Clearly, what can be better than that!
Similarities and Differences Had Its Balance
Everyone wants to meet someone who has the same kind of wavelength as them. But not every time you can find one such person. However, even if you do, it may not be as attractive as you think. As a matter of fact, the ideal date will have a balance between similarities and differences. Clearly, no one wants to meet someone who is entirely different from you mentally and fails to respect your own opinion. But as they say, conflict is the key to growth.
If you agree on everything, then very quickly, you will not have too many things left to discuss more. Before you will know, the date will become absolutely dull.
Hence, it is better to have at least some differences in place.
No Fear, No Tension, No Anxiety
You will never feel any fear, tension, or even anxiety during an ideal date, not even for once. If the other person is well-behaved and well-mannered, then you would never have any fear talking to him/her or spending the evening. Someone who can respect the choice of others and accept them the way they are can never make you feel intimidated.
Your data is supposed to be a fantastic evening where you are supposed to have a wonderful time. If something otherwise happens, you must never see that person again. Abusive dates or someone who is always eager to create a scene even with petty matters with the waiter is better left alone in the future as well. But on the other hand, a good date can leave you with a wonderful feeling while your way back home.
Reaching Each Other Just After the Date
Maybe the date is over, and it is time to head home. But you still wish to talk some more with each other. So, you take the initiative and send him/her a text, and to your surprise, the same feeling is reciprocated from the other end as well. You both resume your talking while traveling home or just after reaching your house.
Maybe it is a simple text, or maybe it will be a call. The idea here is to understand the longing for each other and to continue tall. If your date was not so interesting, then you can be sure of not hearing anything from your date on that very night. If you see that it happens something similar like out of sight out of mind, then definitely you should not expect anything more from your date.
Acknowledging It to Others
A relationship cannot survive without any acknowledgment. Now, acknowledgment can be of many types. Even talking about it to some of her friends is a good sign itself. But in the ideal scenarios, your date might just post a picture of you two on his/her social media platform.
In fact, wanting to click a photo together is another great sign. This proves that this date has somehow touched him/her from within, and they would like to preserve this for the future. So even if they don’t post the photo, still taking the initiative to click one is also quite significant.
Posting the photo on social media is one step further to acknowledge the importance of the date.
Mutual Respect
This is important not just for your date but also in life in general. No matter whom you meet in your life, you must have mutual respect between you two. If your date is respecting your identity, then this is a very good sign for the future.
Coming to terms with your choices is perhaps the most challenging thing for a stranger. Because we all have our egos and it becomes very difficult for us to show equal space to someone else we hardly know. In this world where known people fail to show mutual respect, getting that from a complete stranger is surely a huge thing.
Feeling Comfortable with The Vibe
Every person will have a different kind of air about him, which we can vibe. Matching of vibes is very important in the long run. However, that is not necessarily the same in every situation, but somehow you still feel comfortable with that.
With the right person, your instinct will always be in the right place. Plus, this vibe is something that creates that intense attraction for each other. After all, without some strong attraction for each other, how can you ever continue your dating life with others?
Remembering All the Little Details
Believe it or not, but in life, it is the little things that matter the most. The same can be said about people as well. During the date, you might share a number of things about yourself with your date. Some of the details will be pretty significant as in your professional career, your family, and your dreams, and some of them will be trivial, like your favorite childhood memory or something like that.
It is the little things that reveal a lot about ourselves. So, your ideal date will surely remember these little details about you more than anything else. Their observation will be great as well, and they might tell you where you have a mole on your hand. When someone observes another person attentively, it is clear what they feel about him/her.
Making Plans of Future Date Together
After the initial phase has passed and you both know a bit about yourself, you can move on to plan the next date. It can be anything, taking from the conversation. Like, maybe you both love a particular band, and you can plan your next date for a small concert of that artist or something like that.
The idea here is to do this together. If you see that your date is also taking part in making these plans, then you can be sure that he/she is also eager to meet you again and do something like that together. This can very well be the beginning of your future, where you can move from making petty plans to taking big life decisions together.
It’s Not about Small Talk
This is a date and not someone you met on the metro. Hence, the date must move from just having a small talk to some more profound and more elaborate conversation. This, however, rests a lot on both of you.
You must know how to strike the right kind of conversation, which will not create any kind of conflict but can pass the time without knowing. When you will have great conservation with someone, it can be expected that you would love to meet that person again and continue your conversation. After all, a conversation with the right person never really ends so soon!
They Wanted to See You Off
An ideal date will surely end with your partner insisting on seeing you off. It can be anywhere you feel like it. Maybe you need to catch the tube, and your date will insist you to walk with you till the tube station. This not only proves that the person is into you but also has some care for you. At least, the evening made an impression strong enough on your date that he feels like doing the thing.
Apart from that, it also indicates the kind of chivalry he has towards women. Also, it can give you a great chance to spend some time together outside the restaurant. You can have a romantic walk with each other and have your bond strengthened automatically. Rarely do you get the chance to do something different other than sitting somewhere together and eating some food? So, why not allow him to do this instead?
The Follow Up Date
If everything mentioned above goes right, you would indeed have a follow-up update with your partner. However, it will not be out of some obligation but voluntarily. Both of you would feel like meeting each other and reliving the last evening. But most importantly, you would want to do some new activities together as well.
From the following update onwards, you will never have any problems conversing about things a bit personal as well. Because once the basic trust has been established, new dynamics of the relationship can be built upon.
What Remains?
So, here are some of the most important signs you need to keep in mind in general. However, please be assured that these are not the only ones, as every individual might have something different. If you have a similar kind of experience, then feel free to mention them in the comments section.
Best of luck!
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