Technology has invaded every corner of our lives! Hey, any idea about the positive sides and negative sides of online dating! Yes, believe it or not, but technology has invaded every corner of our lives. For example, are you thinking about dating someone?
Great!
So how would you go about it? Well, there are people who frequent some pub and all and believe in destiny to show them the right person to date. Others or shall I say, most of the people don’t really think in the same way. They want to take things into their own hands and perhaps the best way for them is to go with online dating apps.
But are these dating applications perfect for finding the love of your life?
Well, this is exactly what we are going to find out in this post.
Virtues or Positive Sides & Downsides of Online Dating
Technology Is Boon!
Yes, technology has indeed proved to be a boon and it has invaded every aspect of our lives. Thanks to that we are now exposed to online dating and also online marriage sites. But like many other things related to technology, one has to be very cautious about it and must ponder every other aspect beforehand.
- Firstly, fix a goal for yourself. There are many dating apps on the internet and not all of them are created equal. So, you must understand which one to choose based on what you want out of it. Some people also look for someone on social media instead of a dating app. This is simply because, social media offers you a bit more information about person you are approaching.
- Know about the dating apps you can try. In this case word of mouth approach is the best option. This is because almost all the application will tell you they have the best features for their users. So if you have some friend of yours who has previously used the application can surely help you with the particulars.
- Make sure you are over with your past relationship. This is for your own good. It will less complicated things for you psychologically. Although there is no guarantee that an online dating app can and will connect you with your soul mate, it is always better to start with a clean slate in case you do meet the love of your life
- Don’t rush into things. Most people rush into online dating a bit too soon and get disappointed a bit too soon. When it comes to online dating, you must have some patience in store. There is no magic spell to it, you cannot just speak Aabra Kadabra and voila! The perfect women will appear before your eyes on the screen. No it doesn’t work that way! So make sure you have enough patience and time on your hand.
- Not everyone is looking for something serious on a dating platform. There may be men/women who are not really looking for any commitment. Some of them might be just looking for someone to hook up or have one night stand. So, if you are someone who holds a relationship as something religious or sacred then you must tread carefully.
- Lastly, if you want to be on the safe-side then choose only the apps which have a good rating by users. After all, why waste your time with a not so popular app and limit your reach. A popular application will have thousands of single men/women for you ready to mingle. Choosing the right application is very important if you wish to increase your chances of meeting the right person. If you have a different s*xual orientation then you should look for a more specific application which will have more people listed from your preferred community.
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Positive Sides of Online Dating
First, we are going to start with the positive sides of online dating. I mean that’s the thing everyone wants to know right?
The fact is there are more than one compelling reasons to say that online dating is the most popular way to meet an eligible partner be it a man or a woman. Let’s start with some of the primary reasons as to why it’s really high time to create a dating profile in your life:
Chances to Meet a Huge Numbers of Singles
Yeah, that’s the main objective, isn’t it?
But as I said not all dating apps are created equal and you need to be very precise with your choice before creating a profile. Not so good or absolutely shoddy dating apps can give you only about ten or hundred or may be thousands of people around your area who are not even nearly your age group, let alone match your taste or likings.
After all, if the wavelength doesn’t match then it is never possible to get started with dating someone. However, that being said, there are many great dating apps that cover a wide area near your locality and their smart filters will surely help you get connected with tens of thousands of guys and girls matching your wavelength and seeking love.
Have you often wondered that while there are many beautiful, hot women around your locality but you see very few on the app? Well, my friend, you are using the wrong app. You need to use the popular app in your city and that’s how you can get to meet many hot and interesting people ready to chat with you and even meet you after some time.
Easy to Get Dearest One in Online
Needless to say, you can meet a lot more people by just spending an hour online than you can ever meet in real life no matter how many days of the week you visit your nearest pub. Practically, if you have what it takes, there is no limit to how many potential connections you can make in a single day. Of course, you cannot just stick to one connection once someone right swaps you. You need to keep on looking for more and once you think you have enough on your bucket you can deepen your bond with them.
Like I said before, there are no magic spells here, so you need to have patience and continue to chat with them. Maybe some will disappear or become disinterested after a few days. But chances are there will be someone left and you can move ahead with that connection in due time. If things go all right, you can move from the first day chatting to the first real date very soon.
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Easy Accessibility all the times
They say out of sight out of mind!
That’s why most people become impatient to go on their first date. But due to pandemics these days, it is not easy to always go on a real date with someone. But your dating app can fill the gap in the meantime.
Nowadays most of the dating apps on the android platform and IOS platforms are optimized in the way of any other messaging application. Basically, they come with all the features such as voice calls and video calls as well. So, you don’t have to take the number first to video call your connection anymore. If both parties agree you can video call each other very easily and experience something similar like a real date only virtually.
The pandemic is not here to stay forever. Things are slowly but steadily becoming normal and I guess you will have ample opportunity to go on a real date with your connection very soon. But till that time, you can strengthen your bonding with the help of these in-app features.
Shy People’s Weapon
Most of the shy people could never muster up the courage to walk up to a complete stranger and talk let alone ask for their number.
If you think this is something that you can never do then you can surely start with a dating app. It is often seen that many so called introverted people can chat really well when they are not facing to face with the person.
In the long run, eventually, you will have to meet the person face to face and talk but the dating app can help you get over your initial fear of interacting with someone unknown. Plus, by the time you will meet the person face to face, you will surely have some kind of comfort zone with the person, at least much more than you could ever have in your local pub.
Many introvert people suffer from a lack of confidence and think that no one might find them interesting enough to talk to. But once you start using the app, you will see many people are interested in the way you talk. You always had what it takes to do online dating but you just didn’t know that yet.
A Much More Personalized Approach
Many people think that it is impossible to score in a crowded pub. If only they had some kind of personalized arrangement then they could have succeeded. Well, an online dating app can help you achieve exactly that.
A dating is ten times much more helpful that going on a streak of blind dates set up by some of your generous friends or worse by some of your family members like your mother. If you have always been disappointed by the guys or girls you met on blind dates then a dating app can be worth in saving your precious time and energy.
Thanks to their advanced technology, you can easily set some basic parameters before you even start connecting with someone in particular. Needless to say, these parameters will invariably reflect your own personality and the app will only suggest you connection matching these parameters. Now, that the search criteria have been narrowed down, it will eliminate maximum chances to get connected with an absolutely opposite personality.
Now, remember the app is only here to give you suggestions based on the parameters you will set. So, if you wish to stay dead-fixed on finding nothing but a blue-eyed six-foot man with beautiful dark hair then the app suggestion will be limited for obvious reasons. But if you wish to expand your horizons and be open to other choices then you can set up some broad parameters. According to that, the app will be more than happy to suggest you eligible connections within 25 miles of your location within a plus-minus five-year age group difference. This will surely help you get your hands on enough worthy fishes from the pond.
These parameters will only help you get connected with the right match in much less time and without too many misses.
Quick Communication
Imagine yourself in your favorite pub and a super handsome stranger walks in. Luckily, your favorite local band is also taking the stage this evening but as it turns out, it is not so lucky for you.
I mean just imagine how frustrating it can be to strain your vocal cords and shout at the top of your voice just to make some small talk with that handsome stranger all thanks to the band and the crowd singing along! But online dating apps can fix this problem, or rather, shall I say, with online dating apps you shall never face such a problem.
Here, you will get a vast range of communications options, such as:
- You can directly message
- Voice or video calls
- Chat rooms
- Group forums
- Likes
- Emojis
- Hearts
- Winks like this.
These options will not only help you avoid straining your vocal chords but you can actually make your online dating much more fun. That’s why any popular dating applications are a hit with introverts. People like them usually prefer to reserve their valuable time for real prospects because they often to try to convert them into an actual date.
For absolute rookies who can’t even type a single word even on this platform can use these automated introductions or cyber gifts to get things started to a certain pace. This way you can manage more than one connection and save your most precious charm for connections that seem to be worth a shot
Community Based Application
Maybe you have a different s*xual orientation or maybe you belong to a different caste or sect, specific dating apps can help you find your perfect match
Now, you don’t have to search for gay bars near you or a specific community-dominated locality to find a worthy connection. Just like specific matrimonial sites, now you have applications as well which will help you connect with all other people from the LGBTQ community or any other religious community.
It is kind of rude to ask someone their orientation or religion at the very first go in a pub or someplace else. But with applications like these, you can already narrow down your search and get connected with the best possible match for you.
Downsides of Online Dating
Well, you knew this was coming right from the start, didn’t you? The title does include the word “downsides” as well, isn’t it? Just like I had said, with every piece of technology, there will be a downside as well and dating apps are no exception in this case.
As much as we respect the sentiment many people have for online dating apps and the transformative power it can show in improving people’s love lives, we cannot help but point out some of the potential downsides of this practice as well.
One cannot deny the fact that there are many poor-quality dating apps that do nothing but a disservice to this industry. Most of the time these apps are run by potential scammers who wish to exploit the vulnerability of the users.
Our aim is to make our readers aware of them and that’s why below I am pointing out these aspects:
Puzzle with Fake or Original Accounts
Fake accounts are perhaps the biggest threats you may face while using any online dating app. They are nothing but a nuisance and they can expose you to many kinds of danger. Despite having a good amount of security in every application, you may still find some scammers on dating sites. Some expert hackers can override the security controls and verification processes to enter these sites and exploit genuine users.
One of the biggest reasons behind this is that most of the dating sites or apps will not take a single penny from you to join and create your account. That’s many people join these sites just to irritate other users. But many of them can even make a fool out of the users and even lure them into further danger.
The only way to avoid such scammers is to keep your wits about you and always stay alert. Always remember that you can’t take anybody (or anything!) granted just by the face value online. It is always advised not to share too much about yourself or any vulnerable information that can be used against you. You must first meet the person on a real date and then talk about personal things.
Lack of Emotions
We all must have heard wedding speeches where someone is saying, “he was never my type but…” or someone telling you how their boyfriend was not so romantic but something about him made her fall for him and then one fated beautiful morning, they tied the knot.
Basically, what I am trying to say here is that it is very common for opposite people to fall in love with each other. It can happen for any number of reasons or no reason at all. Not all the time, it has something to do with solely to physical appearance. Maybe someone is good at making you laugh or you find his company absolutely delightful. In case of online dating, there is always a gap between two hearts which incurs a lack of emotions or actual feelings.
Lack of Originality
Maybe someone has a cute smile and loves the same kind of romantic movies as you do. Trust a person like this can be a great partner in life than some hot guy with six-pack abs driving a Ferrari. Human beings are complex beings and their preferences cannot be categorized very easily.
But when it comes to online dating, most people tend to be very fickle-minded and decide based on the matches they find on one photo. Instead of blindly following this, it is better to spend some time reading a few profiles or just responding to some messages instead of jumping to conclusions based on one profile image.
Give yourself some time before you actually decide what you wish to do.
Feeling The Stress
Perhaps the best advice to avoid this situation is not to tell anyone that you’re online dating. This can be all the more beneficial if you aren’t prepared for the questions!
I am saying this because the moment you divulge this truth to others that you are planning to meet someone, your friends will just puzzle you with enquiries and even tease you that how soon you are sending off wedding invitations to them.
Believe me, at that time, when you are not doing any better than struggling with your connection and trying to carve your way, this friendly tease will only make things worse which can increase stress within you.
There are many people who often feel the rush or pressure to accept a date or meet someone who isn’t right. This is a kind of peer-pressure as well since your friends will tell you that it is absolutely essential to find a partner NOW or ASAP!
But in reality, it is always recommended that you be polite and friendly, and most importantly honest. So it is always better to take your time, experience the online dating app as just another life experience, and slowly move your way to enjoy this adventure.
When the right time will come, you will meet the right partner, you can surely let your peers know if not send wedding invitations.
What Remains
So, there you have it, all the plus-sides and downsides of online dating.
Please bear in mind that there is no hard and fast rule to crack this. Just be yourself and let things unfold before you.
If you have some similar experience of using an online app or site and would like to share that experience then feel free to post it in the comments section.
Till then…
Take care!
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