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Who is the right person for you? This is actually the most confusing question for anyone who wishes to get into the dating & tips for that. Before you move into understanding who is the perfect person for you, you must examine yourself first. The most important thing in dating has always been finding someone compatible for you. But understanding the compatibility is never easy. There are several simple yet crucial factors that come into play. Dating Tips for Finding the Right Person In this post, we wish to help you find the most compatible partner out there and give you some idea before you start dating. Dating tips finding out right person that works But wait, there are a few things you need to know beforehand: Decide what you want out of your dating life. If you have reached the age where high-school flings are not your thing anymore, then you need to choose a roadmap for yourself before you even create a profile on some dating site. Choosing the mode of dating is the next important thing you need to figure out. There are many dating sites available out there, and they are pretty popular as well. So they can be one way to start. If you prefer the old-school way of meeting someone face to face and then decide, then you will take a different approach altogether. Are you planning on having a future with the person you are dating? Then you have to think about that beforehand as well. Commitment has never been an easy thing, and you cannot commit to someone without finding that compatibility. Evaluate yourself before you start dating. Most people expect to find a lot of good things in the other person. But their lack of self-awareness makes them forget that the same things can be expected from him/her as well. Evaluating yourself can give you the necessary insights about major deal-breakers in dating life. Eliminate past mistakes. You are not in high school anymore, so it is better not to repeat the mistakes you might have committed in your teenage days. Practically you have to account for your age just like you are looking for someone roughly your age. Most importantly, you need to get over any past relation truly might have had. There cannot be any residue left from your past relationship. Otherwise, it will only hamper the possibilities you might have with your new date. Just get over whatever feeling you might have left for your past relationship and prepare yourself to give love a second chance. Once these aspects are taken care of, you are ready to begin your dating life again. But what are the signs of a perfect person for you? Also Read: Why Do Men Pull Away & Lose Interest? Dating Tips-1: They will Stick to What They Say Do you think it’s difficult to find true love? Well, finding the right person is one and the same thing. That’s what it makes it all the more difficult. Now, you must be aware that at the very beginning, people will make all kinds of promises to win you over. But most of them might not stick to those statements later. Only when you will meet them more and more, you may get to see the real truth behind them. From believing in women empowerment to women working till late at night, the promises can be endless. However, if you see that he is contradicting himself after reaching a certain point in the relationship, then it is clear he/ she is not the one for you. A genuine person or the perfect match for you will speak his heart out and wouldn’t fake his beliefs just to win you over. Many people would change the way they are just to be in your good book, but in the long run, these people cannot prove to be the perfect match. Changing for the betterment of something is different than changing for someone temporarily Dating Tips-2: They will Never Pretend The perfect person in your life will never pretend to be someone he is not. Hence, before you choose someone for serious dating, make sure that person doesn’t have any kind of pretensions. Believe it or not but it will only disappoint you later. If you are sensible enough that it will only take you a few dates to understand if they have such pretentious mannerisms or not. It is important for you to know all about these things, especially if they are putting up a façade to make you impressed. There are many people who tend to flaunt their expensive accessories on their first date or tell you how their Europe trip was one of a kind. But maybe after a few days, if you dig deeper, you might find out that his/her career is not that great, and she can only be described as nothing but a gold-digger. See, you have to grasp the concept here. The perfect person is not someone who would check all the desired boxes, but someone who may not be exactly like you, but his/her essence will be better for your life in general. If you wish to take this dating further and think about marriage, then this aspect is very important. Also Read: How to tell love from a crush Dating Tips-3: Have a Clear Understanding of Equality Most people have a very twisted concept of equality; this creates all the confusion. The real concept of equality is to give equal importance to every gender and provide equal opportunities to every cast and creed. There cannot be any gender centric roles as nowadays men often do dishes, and many women are working in a garage. Your supposed perfect partner should honor and respect these conditions and understand the true concept of equality. Try and check if he believes in the equality of s*xes or not. But be mindful that it should not be just for being politically correct but actually believing and living by this belief in life as well. Many people might tell you that they believe in all kinds of equality, but actually, they don’t, and they rarely implement the ideas in their personal life. Understanding what they truly think will not be very easy, so one of the ways to understand this is to give them various scenarios and see how they react to these scenarios. Their ideas and thoughts will tell you everything about their true self and, of course, your future with him/her. Dating Tips-4: By the Way, They Treat the Waiter If you are sitting with the wrong person in a restaurant, you can immediately feel that the moment a waiter will approach your table. You are his/her date; it is highly unlikely that they will behave rudely with you. But the same cannot be said about the waiter. The way he/she will treat the waiter will reveal how they think about people below their pedigree. If you see that they are acting politely and being patient, then you can consider continuing the date, but if you see some kind of mean power-play taking place, then I believe you can surely quit the date then and there because clearly, that is not the right person for you. Some of them may even flirt with the waiter as well, while some might even create a scene with the waiter because the soup was cold or he doesn’t want to tip the waiter at all. No matter what, his/her behavior with the waiter can reveal a lot of important things about his character. These things must never be overlooked if you are really looking for someone perfect. Dating Tips-5: Showing Mutual Respect Forget everything else and just think about all the songs and stories you know about perfect lovers. You will notice that there is one common theme in all of them; all of them were respectful towards each other. There can be no doubt that not only love and care but respect for each other can drive a relationship forward, and your goal should be to have that because only that builds the foundation of a healthy relationship. Keep in mind that it is not just about holding the door open or not touching your partner’s phone without asking. It is actually about building trust and believing in them. It can also be shown when you count on them and involve them in all the important decisions of your life. The true compatible person to marry or love is the one who would never disregard your advice as unnecessary interference. Dating Tip-6: Have Great Interest but Never Inquire It is a very subtle thing as most people don’t understand the vast difference between being interested and being inquisitive. If someone is showing interest in you, then they would listen or just ask a few questions, but most of the time, they would be satisfied with the information you are giving them. However, an inquisitive person would ask you one question after another, and they will not be very easy to satisfy. Starting from your past relationships to your current paycheck, their curiosity may not know any bounds. It can be a sign that in the future, they’d go on to become insecure partners who’d ask you a million questions before stepping out of the house. Dating Tips-7: Somewhere Between a Spendthrift and a Miser A relationship can easily get hampered by a financial crisis. This is why a very important aspect is to know how your partner spends. This can be a very early sign showing you your future. If someone has huge shopping habits and believes in living a high life, then there is nothing wrong with it. However, one must have adequate financial backing to do that as well. If that is not the case, they mostly rely on credit cards and overspending, then it shows their irresponsible nature, and clearly, you have ended up with the wrong person. It is not wise to be with someone who is very much immature in handling their own finances. But on the other hand, if you have met someone who insists you on paying the bill or talks about the growth of the share market all the time can be even worse. A perfect person will be a balanced spender. Only this way your future relationship can be smooth and financial hassle-free. Dating Tips-8: Hygienic Yes, it is a very important aspect of a perfect person. You might be able to understand this on the very first date, but sometimes it may take some consecutive dates to see him coming in a crinkled t-shirt and shorts. Well, if you see him like that, then you should definitely think about him again. Frankly, maintaining basic hygiene and wearing clean clothes is nothing but very little effort. If someone is not willing to make this much effort for himself/herself, then obviously, it is safe to say that they won’t take the extra mile in a relationship either. Dating Tips-9: Forgives Easily No matter what you say but forgiveness is very important in a relationship. Apart from everything else, you need to be with someone who can easily forgive you, keeping his ego aside. The perfect person will always forgive you and understand your situation before judging you. If he feels bad and starts blaming you because you had to cancel a date at the last moment for some important office work, then, believe it or not, this is just the beginning. Does she often tell you how she is disappointed? Well, a perfect person will never be disappointed but understand that you were in a tight spot. Not everyone can say “sorry” in a relationship, but very few can say “it’s okay,” and if you have someone like this, then you have met the one, of your life. This proves that they will be an understanding partner and would never leave you with the nagging feeling of finding the right person. Always keep in mind that people who can forgive easily are kind and compassionate. They will never ponder or mull over the same boring small issues and mistakes; instead, they can quickly move on. It will always keep the tension and possibility of angry outbursts at bay. Dating Tip-10: Sensibility Sensibility is the rarest quality these days. But how can you understand if your partner is sensible or not? Well, a sensible man will never drive recklessly while coming back from a party. He/ she will suggest you to keep your parents posted about all the significant things in life. They will never ask you to quit the job just because you had a rough day. Rather, he/she would help you find a balance between work and personal life. Now, you must be thinking that finding the right person is very difficult because such people can be very rare, but the truth is that if you have already met someone who is cautious and gives you sensible advice, then you are actually very lucky and they are the people who can stay with you for the rest of your life. If you are restarting your dating life after a divorce, then this parameter can be very important for you. You have already been through a very bitter or maybe a rough relationship, so now you must be with someone who is level-headed and mature. With your past experience, you might not be very keen to play the immature game anymore rather, you would prefer the mellow side of emotional quotient, intelligence, and experience. Hence, you would never date someone who has a body of an adult and the head of a teenager. Dating Tip-11: Not Clingy but Caring If someone cares about you, that doesn’t mean they need to be necessarily clingy. Personal space is important! The perfect person would understand that being concerned for someone is different than being clingy and making 50 phone calls to check on them. It is definitely the worst. Most people would become super clingy and even controlling in a relationship. The ideal person would know the difference between being concerned and absolutely jobless and clingy as if their whole world revolves around you. Sensible and truly caring people would give you space, but at the same time, they would stay in touch and would care about your whereabouts. There is more than one way of showing your love instead of being too overwhelming. Dating Tip-12: Will Never be Overtly Critical Healthy criticism can help you grow. Like if you have put up too much makeup someday, then your partner can ask you to reduce it a bit. Thanks to the nature of your relationship and proximity, your partner can make a suggestion without being overly critical. However, if your partner never likes anything you wear or always criticizes you, then it is not a very good sign. Maybe he doesn’t like your lipstick, but too harsh a criticism can indicate his controlling nature and his tendency to impose his choices on you. You must definitely keep in mind this aspect because it can reveal a lot about that person. If you notice such things, then you must immediately flag it; otherwise, you will never know how body shaming can become a part of his repertoire. If those remarks affect you very much, then you might just start following a strict diet and bidding goodbye to all those cravings you had. Some may even go to the extent of using steroids as they are told to bulk up. No matter what you are said, you can just ignore this criticism as well as the person. Dating Tip-13: Having the Comfort Zone Perhaps the ideal person is one with whom you feel absolutely comfortable. This is where you need to trust your instincts, and if you have someone with whom you can share your problems, dreams, and aspirations without the fear of being judged, then you have landed with the right person. The best part is that you can always be yourself with them, and you don’t have to think twice before saying something. The person can act as a safe place, and you will find the best support in your relationship. Dating Tip-14: Free from Addictions If your partner has an alcohol, gambling addiction, then it can be a real use in your relationship. In such scenarios, you cannot count on age old proverbs like “love is not about finding the right person” because addictions such as these can destroy your life. No matter how charming, good-looking, or successful they might be, addictions like these are never acceptable, and you must look for someone else as early as possible. You can call this finding the right person at the wrong time. It is true that some people still embark on this path, and they try to fix the problems caused by addiction to their partner. But it is inevitably a very difficult path, and not everyone can handle it. We all know that someone will not remain an addict for the rest of their lives but getting into a committed relationship with an addict is never a very wise decision. Maybe you love everything else about them, but still, you must think twice before you get too deeply involved. Please remember that you are not the only one who finds the right person at the wrong time. Dating Tip-15: More Similarities and Fewer Differences There can be no doubt that one must look for similarities between the two instead of the differences. We know that everyone is somehow different and unique, but still, your perfect partner will have many similarities with you. Even though some differences are inevitable, still you need to tally between the similarities and the differences. Once you discover the similarities, you can start exploring many things together. Like if you are into books, then you could talk about books for hours. The same goes for food, movies, music, etc. The ideal person for you will be your ideal friend as well, with whom you can do these things freely. What Remains The concept of an ideal person is always subjective because someone who is ideal for A may not be so ideal for B. So, you need to evaluate yourself as well if you wish to find the ideal person in life. I believe these tips will help you find the person of your dreams and if you have a similar experience, then feel free to tell us all about it in the comments section. Best of luck! Refer to our a few articles. Long distance relationship Healthy relationship 20 signs She is Losing Interest in you How to get a man to commit Reference Articles